ARE YOU FLIRTING WITH ME?
“You can catch a lot of flies with honey, but you can catch even more honeys being fly.” Many teens in high school struggle talking to their crush or don’t know how to approach them. High school is a difficult time with emotions and drama, and adding how to flirt in the mix can make it even more stressful. Here are some tips that some Greenway students gave on how to get your crush to notice you.
Junior Josh Roper said, “Smiling a lot can catch someone’s attention most of the time. Girls find it attractive when a guy smiles for real and doesn’t fake one.”
Studies show that smiling frequently at your crush could give them the idea that you are friendly and easy to approach. Junior Arthur Decker said, “I usually wear a nice button up to show that I’m stylish.” The way you dress can influence the way you’re perceived. When asked if these tactics work to attract girls Decker said, “I don’t think I put my tactics in action enough to get noticed.” People may think they’re flirting, but in reality, they’re not. Make sure you’re putting yourself out there and not holding back.
Senior Hailey Pruitt believes the best way to get a guy’s attention is to laugh a lot and be a little loud. “Be playfully flirtatious, be touchy, and play with your hair,” said Pruitt. Some believe there are three categories of touching: friendly, plausible, and nuclear. Friendly touching is a handshake, shoulder push or a shoulder pat; try to stay away from this. Plausible touching is touching around the waist or forearm; go for this as a hint that you like them. If you really want to make it obvious and with the person’s permission, go for nuclear. “What guy doesn’t like to get flirted with,” said Pruitt.
Parker Berkes, a junior here at Greenway, said, “The best way to get a girl’s attention is to smile a lot and show a genuine interest in what they’re talking about. Shoot your shot, don’t half it or it won’t work. Have confidence; people are more receptive.”
Women tend to like guys that pay attention and show that they’re listening. Don’t ignore what they’re saying or start talking about a totally different topic, that will make the other person feel like they aren’t important.
Junior Seth Shultz said he compliments the person he likes a lot by commenting on her outfit or just personality. He explains that if she doesn’t show that she’s interested, he’ll act like they’re just friends to see if she does anything.
One thing that can often be misread is if the person is flirting or just being nice. A study from Communication Research did a test on multiple people of each gender and had them talk for 10-15 minutes. Most people believed the other person was not flirting when they were and when they weren’t flirting they thought they were. How do we tell if someone is flirting or just being nice?
Flirting often consists of prolonged eye contact, not just a friendly look. You can tell the difference. Physical contact is another sign: touching that goes beyond a brush. The person may also make it a point to tell you that they’re single. Playful teasing and complimenting the person works well too. Instead of asking everyday questions, the person may ask more in-depth questions to show you that they want to get to know you better.
People who want to stay friends will cut down on talking to you and are less inclined to do you favors. The person may also refrain from touching. When you hang out, it is usually in a group or with other people and the person you are flirting with won’t text back as fast and may cancel plans often.
Flirting will always be a mysterious beast that people will try to master.